letting go of the past

Letting go of the past. Like a backpack weighed down by heavy stones, many people find themselves burdened by the weight of their past, unaware of its pervasive influence on their daily lives. From shaping their choices to dictating their actions, the ghosts of past experiences can hinder personal growth and progress. Whether it’s the lingering fear of entering a new relationship after enduring abuse or the deep-rooted insecurity preventing them from pursuing new job opportunities due to the fear of rejection, the past often holds people captive. In this article, we embark on a journey towards healing and understanding, offering relief from the shadows of your past. By delving into both foundational knowledge and practical tools, we will explore effective strategies to finally let go of the past and unlock the pathway to profound healing and freedom.

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How Fantasies Keep the Past Alive: Unveiling the Illusionary World

I vividly remember coaching a woman who held a strong desire to manifest her ex back into her life. However, as we delved deeper, it became apparent that she had been separated from him for several years, and he had since moved on, even marrying someone else. Puzzled by her unwavering obsession, I pondered the reason behind her attachment to someone who had already found new happiness.

The answer lies in one of the core challenges people face when attempting to let go of the past: mental fantasies. These fantasies create elaborate scenarios of a different life with a specific person or ideal circumstances. Whether it’s envisioning an idyllic future with an ex, longing for better parental figures, or imagining the what-ifs of different life choices, these mental constructs hold us captive in an illusory realm that rarely aligns with reality. Consequently, they hinder our ability to take decisive action in the present.

The underlying feeling of powerlessness

Beneath these mental fantasies lies an underlying feeling of powerlessness. The ability to craft our desired reality seems effortless within the confines of our imagination, where limitless possibilities abound. However, the transition from the mental realm to physical manifestation often poses significant challenges. To overcome this, it becomes essential to shift focus to the present moment and regain a sense of personal power. The following steps can serve as a guiding light:

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By unraveling the allure of mental fantasies and redirecting our focus to the present, we can break free from the chains of the past and embrace the infinite possibilities that exist within the realm of now.

Healing the Emotional Body: Unlocking the Path to Liberation

When discussing the process of letting go of the past with my clients, I often witness a common struggle. While they may intellectually understand the benefits of moving forward, they find themselves repeatedly pulled back into an emotional rollercoaster of memories, regrets, and grief. This internal tug-of-war is not uncommon. Although the conscious mind recognizes the need for change, the subconscious mind remains deeply entangled. That’s why it is crucial to address the issue of letting go from a subconscious level and initiate healing at this profound emotional layer.

Experiences, whether positive or negative, come bundled with a cascade of emotions that are intricately linked to physical sensations within our bodies. When these emotions are not adequately processed, they become lodged within the emotional body, perpetuating a cycle of constant reinforcement. To break free from this cycle and attain true liberation, we can follow the transformative steps outlined below:

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By consciously tending to the emotional body and diligently following these steps, we embark on a transformative journey toward healing and liberation. With each iteration, we untangle the emotional knots of the past, making room for profound personal growth and the restoration of our inner equilibrium.

Letting go of the past with the Inquiry process

Letting go of the past can be a challenging process, involving both emotional and mental aspects. While we have explored the emotional reasons that keep us clinging to the past, it is also important to shed light on the mental thought-loops that perpetuate our stuckness.

Your subconscious holds onto the past not merely out of a desire to do so, but because it serves a purpose. For instance, holding onto a loss might serve the purpose of eliciting caution from others, who recognize your vulnerability. Similarly, not letting go of an ex might provide a sense of connection and prevent the loss of hope. To understand your specific reasons for holding on, it is beneficial to ask yourself the following questions:

Why am I still holding on to this?

What negative consequences do I fear if I let it go?

What need is being fulfilled by holding onto this past?

By taking a moment to answer these questions, you move closer to liberation. The answers will guide you toward the changes you need to make. For instance, if the answer to the second question is something like, ‘I fear being treated normally by everyone’ or ‘I will lose connection,’ you can explore ways to find people who appreciate you or foster a deeper connection with yourself.

When the past is repeating itself  

The feeling of the past repeating itself can leave us questioning why we find ourselves in familiar patterns time and time again. Desperately, we search for answers, asking ourselves, ‘How did I end up in this situation once more?’ The answer, though seemingly elusive, lies in our subconscious beliefs. Unquestioned and operating behind the scenes of our daily lives, these beliefs shape our actions. They guide us to choose similar partners, toxic work environments, and friends who cause us pain repeatedly. As these beliefs and traumas reside in our subconscious, we struggle to comprehend why history is repeating itself, almost like an invisible force beyond our control.

Fortunately, there is a solution: delving into our subconscious beliefs to uncover what drives our engagement with these recurring patterns. Let’s explore a few examples:

  • Subconsciously, you may hold the belief that when you experience immense happiness, things inevitably fall apart. As a result, you find yourself encountering severe business failures when you are at the peak of your entrepreneurial journey.
  • Past losses may have instilled a deep-seated belief that no relationship can withstand the test of time, leading you to assume that all relationships are destined to be short-lived.

By bringing these subconscious beliefs to light, we gain insight into why we are drawn to these repetitive experiences. This understanding opens the door to change, allowing us to break free from the cycle and create new, empowering narratives.

Break Free from the Past: Discover Personal Transformation with Coaching

Now this process is not as easy as reading one book about it. Delving into the subconscious mind and resolving long-held assumptions can be an exhausting process. For that reason, I developed a coaching program to let go of the past. Through a combination of proven techniques, personalized guidance, and profound self-discovery, the program empowers you to release the subconscious beliefs and traumas that have been holding you back. Gain clarity, harness your inner strength, and create the life you truly desire.

To get started on this life-changing path, schedule a free coaching call. Book below.

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During this call, I will take the time to understand your unique challenges, explore the patterns that are keeping you stuck, and provide valuable insights tailored specifically to you. Together, we will create a roadmap for your personal transformation.

Letting go of the past: it’s not about forgiveness

Letting go of the past is a topic often accompanied by advice on practicing forgiveness. While forgiveness can be a significant milestone in the healing process, it is not something that can be forced or imposed upon oneself. Forcing forgiveness can actually do more harm than good, as it disregards the valid feelings of hurt and pain that reside within us.

True forgiveness is a natural state that emerges through the journey of healing. It’s akin to embarking on a challenging hike, where you consider taking detours along the way. Eventually, you reach the summit, knowing that you couldn’t have reached it without navigating through the difficult path. In retrospect, you find gratitude for the challenges you faced.

Similarly, the path of healing and letting go of the past unveils more hurtful aspects as you progress. However, when approached correctly, by fully experiencing and learning from what has transpired, you have the opportunity to arrive at genuine forgiveness. Deep down, you recognize that you wouldn’t have grown as much without those challenges.

Therefore, for now, set aside the idea of forgiveness and direct your energy towards letting go of the past. By acknowledging your pain, fully embracing the healing process, and learning from your experiences, you pave the way for profound personal growth and liberation.

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