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Choose people who support your change

When I started personal development I felt quite alone. There was no one I could talk to about the concepts I learned. The awareness I gained. The new way of life I found.  I often felt like a chameleon: At home, I was so focused on developing myself. On raising my awareness. And in crowds, I hid this awareness.

It took some time for me to have the courage to express my authentic self. But as soon as I started this, new people came into my life that are now supporting me.

Starting personal development brings a lot of change. You may have people in your social circle that do not support your change.

When you start changing your diet, your business, when you start doing something new, you will always have people that do not support your change. They say that this is bullshit and this won’t work.

More though they secretly manipulate you in order for you to stay where you are.

It can be as simple as:

“Why don’t you finish your plate?”, when you are on a diet (And they KNOW that you are on a diet).

“Don’t read so many books, come watch TV with us.”

The way they do it can be very very sneaky. So be careful.


Why are they doing that?

People see in you what they themselves are not capable of doing.

They see that you are leaving your comfort zone. That you start to change. And when you start changing, when you start pursuing your dream, that means that they can too. So they are directly confronted with what they themselves are simply not willing to do. That’s the reason they try to manipulate you.


You are their mirror

You are their mirror. You show them the courage that they never had. You show them the development they are resisting. You show them other ways of living life.

You are essentially the mirror of their unfulfilled dreams.

This period in your life is a good time for you to change your social circle.

When you start changing your diet, your lifestyle,.., see which people do support you and which do not support you in your change.

Write a list. One for people who encourage you and one for people who discourage you.

The ones that discourage you: spend less time with them. You don’t need people who bring you down.

Instead, focus on the people who applause you. Who push you. People who say: ”Great! Keep going girl. I believe in you.” These are the people you should spend your time with.

Don’t get discouraged because of other people. This is your life, your dream. People want to bring you down, that’s normal. They have a perception of you. They have a fixed belief about who they think you are and it’s uncomfortable for them to change this belief.


Time to go alone

The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before.

 If you don’t have any supporters, that’s fine. Don’t worry. Maybe it’s time for you to go alone. To make your own path. To go somewhere no one has ever been. Don’t get discouraged. The greatest path is your own path.

Love and light <3

picture: sasint(CC0 Public Domain)

 

7 Responses
  • Keva Bartnick
    January 25, 2017

    This was perfect timing! Thank you, this was exactly what I needed see today! Many Blessings! 👍🏼❤👍🏼

    • Lorelle
      January 27, 2017

      Hey Keva,
      glad this resonates with you.
      Love and blessings back <3

  • Christina
    February 6, 2017

    What a lovely post! Your two quote blocks are great take-aways! It does seem that often people in our lives don’t encourage us to do big things, for whatever reasons…their own projections, their own fears or concerns, etc….but I feel if someone has a big idea (like adopting 4-5 siblings, say!) we should be behind them 100%, supporting them, cheering them on! 🙂 Happy to have found your blog!

    • Lorelle
      February 6, 2017

      Hey Christina,

      thank you so much. I totally agree. We should support people in whatever crazy dream they have. Who knows what the outcome might be.

      Love to you,

      Lorelle

  • MAYUR
    February 12, 2017

    I CAN RELATE WITH THE POST , THESE KIND OF PEOPLE ARE NARCISSISTS AND AS YOU SAID THEY DON’T DIRECTLY HARM YOU BUT WILL FIND A WAY TO BREAK YOU DOWN EMOTIONALLY. THERE IS A SAYING ABOUT THE TOXIC ATTRACTION BETWEEN EMPATHS AND NARCISSISTS. I THINK IT’S LIKE THE FILM MATRIX WHEN NEO WAKES YUP AND REMEMBERS WHO HE IS THERE IS A SMITH TRANSFORMED FROM THE NEAREST HUMAN IN THE GRID. WE HAVE TO VIBRATE IN A MUCH HIGHER LEVEL TO PROTECT OURSELVES FROM THE NEGATIVITY OF NARCISSISM OR ELSE WE CAN’T GROW.

    • Lorelle
      February 12, 2017

      Yes. You are right. And we must be highly aware and conscious of whats going on around us and in ourselves.
      Thank you for sharing this with us <3

  • Christina
    May 29, 2017

    Very true words. Spend your time mostly with the people who lift you up, not bring you down. 🙂

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